Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, and host of the podcast Jillian On Love who for over 20 years has taught others how to transform their love lives. Jillian is certified by the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention, a renowned coaching program known for its innovative strategic solutions to the most difficult relationship problems. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching and teaching.

How to reignite the spark? What defines a narcissist? Why do people ghost? Amanda sits down with certified relationship coach Jillian Turecki. They unpack the intricacies of relationships, from dating apps to knowing when it’s time to go, plus what to do when you’re hung up on an ex, how to handle anxious and avoidant attachment styles, and the importance of turning yourself on.

Curious about a specific topic? Here’s what they cover:

  • Somatic signs in relationships (1:50) 
  • Decoding your somatic responses (3:00) 
  • Safety in your body vs in relationship (6:00)  
  • Being lighter in relationship (8:30)
  • Signs you feel safe in a relationship (10:30) 
  • How to run your relationship well like a business (11:45) 
  • Planning fun (13:15)
  • How to bring back the spark (15:05)
  • Are you turned on by you (16:00)
  • Attraction to confidence (18:40)
  • Dance between together and separateness (19:40)
  • Stress (21:00)
  • Stress isn’t sexy (21:40)
  • You can’t always prioritize the children (23:05) 
  • Different sex drives (23:45)
  • Women need more foreplay (24:45)
  • Porn addiction (26:50)
  • Restoring intimacy (32:00)
  • Constant rejection changes the relationship (35:00)
  • Insecurity vs wandering eye vs cheating (36:00)
  • Social media (40:15)
  • Following provocative accounts (41:50) 
  • Getting to the root of insecurity (44:30)  
  • Exes (47:10)
  • Why we get stuck on exes (48:25) 
  • When an ex won’t go away (52:00) 
  • Conflict resolution in relationships (53:25) 
  • What does an avoidant partner look like (54:25)
  • How to respect your partner’s autonomy (54:50)
  • Zero tolerance for stone walling (57:25)
  • Narcissism (57:50)
  • Gaslighting (59:25)
  • Signs of a narcissist (1:00:20)
  • Can you have a functional relationship with a narcissist (1:04:00)
  • When is it time to leave a relationship (1:06:05)
  • Questions to ask yourself before ending a relationship (1:08:00)
  • What’s normal, what’s not (1:10:45)
  • Stages of relationships (1:12:40) 
  • Love is a practice (1:13:49)
  • The predictor of breaking up (1:15:00) 
  • How to find a good partner (1:17:55) 
  • Be willing to say no (1:20:20) 
  • Key to dating apps (1:24:00)
  • Ghosting (1:29:50)
  • Why people ghost (1:31:40)
  • Ghosting is their problem, not yours (1:34:50)
  • Ghosts who come back (1:37:00)
  • Get out of your head (1:38:15)

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